Let me tell you why you must not.
Our instinctive reaction to any circumstance that comes our way is to engage in a maze of blame. The series of who-why-when clouds your brain until you come up with someone or something you detest enough to shift the blame to. And well of course, if none is rationalised, we then carefully channel our misfortune to the gods, goddesses and everything holy. It has to be someone’s fault, does it?
In my humble opinion, this act of blame acts as a momentarily satisfaction, sedating the part of your brain that rationalises and comes to terms with matters. It’s very much more convenient to channel towards some inexplicable divinely intervention as oppose to being introspective and asking yourself the question, “what was my part in all this?”.
Yes, I could hear the voice inside your head letting out a “what sort of guide to being a martyr is this?”, but bear with me.
Society has conditioned our mind to believe that taking “blame” for actions is a sign of weakness – a cry for help. On the contrary, I believe it’s the first step towards a soulful recovery. Owning up to our role in whatever circumstances that comes our way automatically puts us in the position to regain control, step back, assess and then actively engage in the process of forging our own destiny. The constant glorification of “what the society owes me” as oppose to encouraging to look at “what I owe to the society” by numerous organisations with Moses-complexes and corporates and their political subordinates have made our minds lax – a comatose state of sorts.
So gather up your thoughts, get out of bed. Stop blaming your neighbours cat or the seven Gods. Take a deep breath, ask yourself what role you have played in getting where you are – good or bad, intentional or unintentional. Take a stand and forge your own destiny. Write your own story.
Be an active participant of your own life. Because, here’s a pointer, apathy and sympathy are such turn-offs. Engage, involve, create. And the next time, ask yourself, “what can I do to make things better?”